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" This is a masterfully crafted memoir, an elegant tour de force that firmly establishes Mulgrew as a writer of significant literary endowment. The soulmate to Frank McCourt's Angela's Ashes, How to Forget, despite the promise of its title, cannot be forgotten or ignored. Augusten Burroughs, author of Running with Scissors and Toil &,Trouble In this profoundly honest and examined memoir about returning to Iowa to care for her ailing parents, the star of Orange Is the New Black and bestselling author of Born with Teeth takes us on an unexpected journey of loss, betrayal, and the transcendent nature of a daughter's love for her parents. They say you can't go home again. But when her father is diagnosed with aggressive lung cancer and her mother with atypical Alzheimer's, New York-based actress Kate Mulgrew returns to her hometown in Iowa to spend time with her parents and care for them in the time they have left. The months Kate spends with her parents in Dubuque by turns turbulent, tragic, and joyful lead her to reflect on each of their lives and how they shaped her own. Those ruminations are transformed when, in the wake of their deaths, Kate uncovers long-kept secrets that challenge her understanding of the unconventional Irish Catholic household in which she was raised. Breathtaking and powerful, laced with the author's irreverent wit, How to Forget is a considered portrait of a mother and a father, an emotionally powerful memoir that demonstrates how love fuses children and parents, and an honest examination of family, memory, and indelible loss. "
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Biographisches: " Kate Mulgrew, a native of Dubuque, Iowa, is an actress and author with an extensive career on stage and screen. From her start as Mary Ryan, the lead role on the popular soap opera Ryan's Hope to the groundbreaking first female starship captain on Star Trek: Voyager to her acclaimed performance as Galina Red Reznikov on Netflix's smash hit Orange Is The New Black , Kate brings a formidable presence and deep passion to all her projects. Her 2016 book, Born With Teeth , allowed her to add New York Times bestselling author to her resume. " Rezension(2): " Augusten Burroughs, author of Running with Scissors and Toil &" Rezension(3): " Anne Roiphe, journalist, novelist, and author of the memoir 1185 Park Avenue :This is a passionate book by a passionate writer. Overflowing with the true terrors of family life, with the fight for love and connection and understanding, with an amazing American story of hope and disappointment, sorrow and roots, this memoir will electrify readers and become a part of what we know about who we are." Rezension(4): "〈a href=http://www.publishersweekly.com target=blank〉〈img src=https://images.contentreserve.com/pw_logo.png alt=Publisher's Weekly border=0 /〉〈/a〉: March 11, 2019 In this candid and intimate memoir, Mulgrew ( Born with Teeth ), an actress on Star Trek: Voyager , chronicles her father’s death at 83 from lung cancer, as well as her artist mother’s decline from Alzheimer’s disease. Mulgrew, one of eight children, was doing a live show in Florida when she learned of her father’s cancer diagnosis. She returned home to take on “a principal role in a real-life drama” and oversaw his final days, while also taking care of her mother. Back in Dubuque County, Iowa, on the 40-acre estate her father purchased to raise his large Irish Catholic family, Mulgrew delves into her past and her complicated relationship with the uncommunicative father she adores. She recalls how he drove her three hours to Milwaukee for her first audition even though—unlike her mother—he didn’t support her dream of acting. The book also has lighter moments (the author and her brother delight in watching their mother, even in the throes of Alzheimer’s, knock off eight whiskeys at a New York City bar). In an intensely intimate moment, Mulgrew bathes her comatose father,two years later, she holds vigil at her dying mother’s bedside. This is a detailed and searing portrait of a family facing the inevitability of death." Rezension(5): "〈a href=http://www.kirkusreviews.com target=blank〉〈img src=https://images.contentreserve.com/kirkus_logo.png alt=Kirkus border=0 /〉〈/a〉: March 15, 2019 An award-winning actor's account of returning to her hometown of Dubuque, Iowa, to care for parents diagnosed with devastating terminal illnesses.Lonely, drained, and exhausted, Mulgrew (Born with Teeth, 2015), who has starred in Star Trek: Voyager and Orange Is the New Black, was on a theater tour in Florida when she first received word that her father, Tom, had lung cancer. Years earlier, she and her siblings had learned that their mother was suffering from atypical Alzheimer's disease. Now, the girl she had left behind in Iowa suddenly kicked, and swam hard for the surface, wanting nothing more than to return home and help her parents. In this powerful memoir, Mulgrew pays homage to her mother and father, their deep, at times troubled union, and the intense bonds she shared with each. She dedicates the first half of the book to her father, a charming alcoholic tormented by the fact that he wasn't a loser but...wasn't a winner, either. The author's relationship with him simmered with tension over the years, and when his wife, Joan, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, it was the author whom she named her health care guardian. In the second half of the book, Mulgrew tells the story of her mother. Though outwardly vibrant, Joan had been made inwardly fragile by the loss of her own mother at an early age. She married Tom, who had wooed her with...tenacity and promises of happiness, only to find mediocrity. His drinking drove her to take solo trips from home and temporary refuge in the arms of a handsome local priest. The author became her source of strength when death and disappointment marred her later life. Like Born with Teeth, this book is self-consciously literary and sometimes overwritten. Nonetheless, the narrative offers a rich, eloquent, and emotionally complex portrait of parent-child bonds and a colorful, unforgettable family.On the whole, Mulgrew delivers another candid and moving memoir. COPYRIGHT(2019) Kirkus Reviews, ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. " Rezension(6): "〈a href=http://lj.libraryjournal.com/ target=blank〉〈img src=https://images.contentreserve.com/libraryjournal_logo.png alt=Library Journal border=0 /〉〈/a〉: May 1, 2019 In her first memoir, Born with Teeth , stage and screen actress Mulgrew ( Star Trek: Voyager , Orange Is the New Black ) discussed her longing for the daughter she gave up for adoption. With this follow-up, she examines a different form of longing--that of her parents' approval. In two sections, one devoted to each parent, Mulgrew recounts life as the second oldest of eight children, in an Irish Catholic household in Dubuque, IA, with a family history of alcoholism and silent resentment. She details her dad's hard childhood and his impassivity after the deaths of two of Mulgrew's sisters while relating her mom's equally challenging upbringing, losing her own mom at a young age, and retreating into herself after the sudden loss of two children. With candor, Mulgrew shares her efforts at caregiving after her mom develops Alzheimer's and, later, her dad is diagnosed with cancer. The author's privilege shows in passages about her reliance on her caregivers of Mexican descent,however, she reveals the painful effects of a family's long-standing fear of doctors and lack of vulnerability. VERDICT Though long-winded at times, this intimate memoir shares the realities of loving flawed parents and coping with grief and loss,a worthwhile read. --Stephanie Sendaula, Library JournalCopyright 2019 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission. " Rezension(7): "〈a href=https://www.booklistonline.com target=blank〉〈img src=https://images.contentreserve.com/booklist_logo.png alt=Booklist border=0 /〉〈/a〉: April 15, 2019 Some readers may recognize author Mulgrew as the actor who brought television characters Mary Ryan, Captain Kathryn Janeway, and Red Reznikov to life. Others may remember her as the author of a best-selling memoir about her midwestern Irish Catholic upbringing and career in show business, Born with Teeth (2015). Whether already aware of Mulgrew's charming and unique voice, or new to her compelling, introspective storytelling, audiences will appreciate this new memoir, an account of her parents during the final years of their lives. Artistic, whimsical Jicky and larger-than-life, hard-drinking Tom were the somewhat unconventional parents of seven children, of whom Kate was second, and the oldest daughter. Kate describes the daily routines of caring for her stubborn, willful father, who is succumbing to cancer, and her mother, who is being gradually diminished by Alzheimer's, all the while reflecting back on typical family foibles: sibling rivalries, inside jokes, shared secrets, and manifestations of love, however obscure and mysterious to outsiders. This engrossing story of a daughter's love, told with brutal honesty, will resonate with readers.(Reprinted with permission of Booklist, copyright 2019, American Library Association.) "
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